Self-love is a must in order to be enlightened, spiritualized person. You cannot give other individuals love when your mind is full of self-criticism or self-loathing. Learn how to love yourself.
Why Self-Love Is So Important
Before I give you the ten plus one tip on how to build self-love, learn why it is so important:
It Is Easier To Say “No”
Loving yourself, it becomes easier for you to say n”no” to people and things that don’t align with your values because you realise that your time is a valuable asset and that it is better to spend it on doing the things you love.
Opportunity To Heal
Loving yourself makes you more open and aware of the healing process. You know about the option of being hurt, but that does not mean the pain has to last forever. The same applies to emotions
Better Communication With others
Self-love is taking the time out to figure out who you are and what you want. Once you know this you are able to have honest conversations with anyone and everyone, being upfront and frank.
Not Seeking Approval
When you truly love yourself, you realize that confidence is within and that no one can make you feel as good or as happy as yourself. Thus you feel pressured to do things just to be liked and care less what others say or think of you.
More Comfort During Bad Days
You see each day as the best day, where you feel like you can conquer the world, accepting whatever mental and physical state you are in. You find the light even in the bad days because they are an opportunity to learn and grow.
Making Healthier Choices
Self-love helps you to make choices that will only improve your quality of life. For example, eating better, proper sleep and exercise mean that taking care of your mental and physical well-being is essential to your success. When you look better you feel better, and when you feel better, you do better.
Loving yourself you see the power of forgiving yourself and others for things that have already happened and therefore you have no longer control over them. You accept responsibility for your actions while still releasing the blame you place on yourself for the harm others have caused you.
You Charge Your Life
You realise the power of choice – when and how you want to live your life. This means that you weigh more heavily on the pros and cones of making certain choices that will affect your future and therefore, only make choices that align with your values and will help you honour them.
Better Emotional Relationships With People
While spending time processing your emotions, you are digging deep inside of yourself and getting to the core of who you are. As you work to love and accept yourself and be honest you encourage other’s to do the same so that you open up and connect with others on a deeper level, unafraid to show the parts of yourself that are rough around the edges and see the same in others.
10 + 1 Steps To Self-Love
Now you will learn how to love yourself so that your spiritual, emotional, physical and mental life will flourish.
1. Say “No” To All Criticism
Commit today to stop criticising anything – yourself, other people and circumstances – now and forever. Criticism does not usually change things into more positive, Even so-called constructive criticism does not guarantee that the person criticised will apply the positive suggestions. Instead of criticising, stand in front of the mirror and say:
I AM OKAY AS I AM RIGHT NOW.
2. Stop Your Oppressive Thoughts
Never let negative thoughts grow and control you. Stop threatening your self. Instead, practise self-acceptance. When a negative thought or its energy come, put them to the bin, destroy with the Divine Light. Choose the thoughts of love, hope, optimism and happiness instead.
3. Be Kind To Yourself
It means being lenient, kind, good and in particular – patient to yourself. Patience can be compared to a garden and its cultivation. Your negative thoughts are the weeds jamming the flowers and grass – your positivity. Apart from putting them to the bin, ask yourself a question: How can I love myself more? You can also use these affirmations:
I WANT TO LOVE YOU MORE TODAY THAN YESTERDAY
4. Be Forgiving To Your Mind
The fourth tip means that you stop living in blaming and guilt. Blaming that you have done something wrong leads to guilt, and guilt means punishment which causes pain. When you stop blaming yourself then you will accept responsibility. Use meditation and positive visualisation.
5. Reward Yourself
Criticism destroys, reward builds. Give yourself permission to a reward, for what you are doing, for the person you are. Say to the mirror:
I CAN COPE WITH EVERYTHING.
6. Find Ways And People Who Will Support You
Having a helping hand will increase your self-confidence and self-love. Friendly mentors will motivate you and increase your self-esteem. You will make more progress and make the most of your potential.
7. Accept Your Failures
Accept the negative part of your experiences, as much as you can, like the obstacles. Pay less attention to them. Remember that whatever is happening in your life, it results from your thoughts, words and deeds in the past, from this life and the previous ones. You are never wrong. Anger does not create positive changes.
Laugh as often as possible. Meet with friendly individuals, who make you feel good, who make you laugh. Watch funny comedies or other films, listen to jokes.
Your body is your temple. Be careful what gets into it, food is the fuel of your body. Taking care of it is the manifestation of self-love. Here is one affirmation you can use:
I FORGIVE, I HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN. I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU. WHAT CAN I DO TO LOVE YOU? I DESERVE ONLY GOOD THINGS IN MY LIFE.
10. Feel Your Feelings
Feel your feelings and live to feel. You can use the following affirmations to induce more feeling in your life:
- WHEREVER I GO I WILL WALK.
- LIFE IS JOY AND FILLED WITH LOVE.
- MY INCOME IS INCREASING, I AM ALWAYS SAFE.
- I AM READY FOR SELF-LOVE.
11. See Yourself As a Beloved Child Of the Universe
In this way, you will feel some urge to only love yourself. if God, Mother Earth and the Universe love you, how can you behave differently? Always consider yourself as a wonder, a beautiful being, deserving love, happiness, health and abundance.
In a Nutshell
Today you have learnt why self-love is so important and how to love yourself. Some of the ways include self-forgiveness, no criticism, finding helpful people, taking care of your body and mind, being kind and forgiving to yourself. Good luck on the way of increasing your self-love.