Each of us has heard about New Year’s resolutions. Some of them mean giving up negative things or habits. However, in most cases, we forget that there are more than baker’s dozen negative things that may surprise you and which are often omitted and which should be given up, too. What are they?
15 Negative Things To Resign From
I will give you only fifteen examples as more could overwhelm you. Pick up one for a try and after a month, check if you can resign from more negative things. Here they are:
1. No Need To Be Always Right
Remember that the need to be righteous is the symptom of low self-esteem and the willingness to be superior over other individuals. Hence, it is not your strength, but weakness.
Spiritual growth assumes healthy humility. You should never feel be cocksure or perky. it concerns people, animals and even inanimate objects. Remember that there will always be someone better than you, who will humiliate you dramatically in the case of showing superiority and arrogance. Being perky is not the value of Light.
2. No Willingness To Control
It concerns controlling other people or beings (animals), eventually distrusting neither yourself nor other beings. Think for a while? How could you live with someone who does not trust you?
You also need to know that we all have the right of choice on this planet. You need to let other beings make mistakes, behave their own way, even if it is not according to your standard or the vision of your life. And it means no attempt of controlling others.
3. No Blaming
Stop blaming people, things, circumstances and yourself. Take responsibility for your life. As I wrote in one article, it concerns your words, acts, thoughts and reactions.
4. No Negative Self-Talk
Stop believing in your destructive self-talk. The more you discuss with your thoughts and words, giving them your attention, the more valuable energy you lose in your life. Your mind is a tool. You have control over it. In the case of negative thoughts or words, jut put them to the bin. Take responsibility for your reactions.
5. No Negative Beliefs
Your negative beliefs are the roots of your thoughts, limiting you in every aspect of your life. They create your reality. Therefore, make an effort to have only positive beliefs. I will write some posts about transforming your beliefs soon.
6. No Grumbling And Complaining
It is your choice to complain and grumble. They both represent the negative way of handling your reality. Know that complaining creates the pits for you. Read my article about grumbling and learn how to stop this process.
7. No Criticism
The more you criticise yourself, other beings (also animals), inanimate things and events that happen in your life, the more difficult it is to notice the positive side of life. You have the right to criticise, but it has to be constructive, giving you or other people the opportunity to correct their words, deeds and even thoughts.
Keep your inner critic at bay. It will send you negative thoughts which diminish your self-confidence and self-esteem. If you let these thoughts multiply and constantly repeat in your head, negative thought forms will be created and it will be more difficult to get rid of them than the thoughts themselves.
8. No Need To Impress Other People
It is only you, the only person that you need to impress. If you want to impress other individuals, you become addicted to their judgement about your person and susceptible to their criticism and manipulation. When you go to the other world after passing away, only your deeds and fulfilment of your soul contract will matter. You will be asked “How much progress have you made? What have you learnt? How have you done your homework?”
9. No Resistance For Changes
There is a proverb: Nothing is constant… except change. It is also one of Universal Laws which is unquestionable and immutable. Treat your life as a journey and the game and even if a given change may mean a temporary failure, loss or discomfort, never give up. And also know that to have something new, often better in your life, you need to lose something in return.
10. No Labelling People And Things
By labelling people, things and animals, you fall into the trap of stereotypes instead of having your own viewpoint, based on your life experience. Have an open mind and never label as this will limit your ability to judge life according to your own views.
Why do we label? Our parents, siblings, the media, religion and society teach us to do so since the youngest. Not to mention school, where you obtain a nickname and nickname your teachers or peers.
11. No Irrational Fears
It is proved that 92% of fears are irrational. Just ask a question:
- Is this thought true?
- What is the evidence that it is true? – and question each evidence again: Is this true?
You can also ask these questions:
- What is the worst scenario?
- How can I handle the worst scenario, how can I minimise it?
I can assure you, only 2% of your fears will manifest, and it also depends on your thinking. Therefore, change your thinking and take action.
12. No Excuses
The truth is that when you search for excuses, you will find them. It is the best example of how the Universal law of Focus works. However, excuses mean that you do not want to take responsibility for your life, for your soul’s growth, which means that the lesson will be repeated anyway, as long as you avoid doing your homework.
13. No Dwelling On the Past
Your past has already been and will not happen anymore unless you have not learnt the life lesson it has carried. The dead person, the lost job will not come back, but no one will take you the experience and good memories you had then. Remember the good moments from the past and learn from the bad ones, but never attach to neither of them.
14. No Tight Attachment To People, Animals And Things
Fear of losing something or someone robs you from happiness which you could enjoy now. They are worries and actually speed up the events you are afraid of. Therefore, enjoy and appreciate what you have got right now. Accept it can be lost. Changes are inevitable and you will not avoid it. Gain inner peace and lots of energy which you can use for fulfilling your dreams.
15. No Meeting Other People’s Needs
I do not mean not helping others at all. But in the case when your growth is more important, take care of yourself first. To help others, invest in your health, self-esteem, competences, or mental and emotional growth. To share, you need to accumulate something first.
Never solve other people’s problems, especially those presented by grumblers and other kinds of victims. You can give them a tip on how to solve these problems, but that is it. Your time is too precious.
In a Nutshell
Today you have learnt the fifteen things which you should eliminate from your life. In general, they concern being a victim, lack of self-responsibility and not following the values of the Light. Good luck on the way of eliminating them, as the road may be bumpy and long, with ups and downs.