Acceptance is one of the values of Light. Some say that it is one of the hardest values. Because of that fact I have decided to show you how to implement acceptance in your everyday life.
How To Accept Your Life
Firstly do not panic and do not be overwhelmed. Acceptance is like peeling an onion because it has layers. Therefore, do not try to get to the middle instantly before removing all the layers.
The first layer of an onion is dry but very firm. Hence the first thing you will need to do is the hardest. And this thing is letting all your negativity go.
1. Let Negativity Go
It is very hard to accept even a tiny thing without going through this step. Flooded with negativity, you just feel reluctant to touch any sore part of your life, because accepting your parents after many traumatic arguments can be hard.
Letting go needs to be spontaneous. Don’t start from the most painful traumas and the most fierce anger. At first, you can let negativity go in a general sense because your thoughts will be very fierce here. Later you can be more precise.
Use whichever method you prefer – shouting, kicking or writing – these channels will help to release all the built-up negativity. Other people like visualising how the negativity is being destroyed and disappears. You can also read the affirmations:
- I LET NEGATIVITY GO,
- I,… (YOUR NEME0 LET X (THE THING YOU WANT TO GET SHOT OF) GO.
- I… (YOUR NAME) AM FREE FROM…
What can you let go? Anger, fear of…. (e.g. being hurt again), resentment to… (name of the person), apathy, guilt, shame and many other things which bring you pain and discomfort.
In the case of spiritual growth, sending all the negativity to the Light can be the most efficient option. Visualise the negative energy as a black cloud sucked by a purple vacuum cleaner.
2. Forgive Yourself
This is the tenderer layer of our onion to crack. Forgiveness is not forgetting, it is letting go again – this time the willingness to seek revenge in order to call it quits. You need to be ready to abandon seeking revenge and holding grudges. But firstly, before you start trying to forgive other people, you need to forgive yourself.
Check my post about self-forgiveness here.
Forgiving yourself is about getting rid of beating up yourself. You can do it because of the decisions made, the words said, or any actions which have brought about negative consequences and even your negative thoughts. At this stage, you also get shot of anger, guilt directed to yourself, pain because of something done by yourself. In short, everything which means beating up yourself.
Again, we start from letting go – all the negative emotions directed to youreslf:
- I … (YOUR NAME) LET SELF-PITY GO
- I… (YOUR NAME) LET BEATING UP GO
You can also release the negativity and then let it go:
- I… (YOUR NAME)AM FREEING UP ….. AND LET IT GO NOW
- I… (YOUR NAME) AM DELETING ….. NOW
- I… (YOUR NAME) AM DESTROYING … NOW
- I… (YOUR NAME) AM GETTING RID OF… FROM MY LIFE NOW.
If you are kinesthetic, you can kick or shout saying these statements, imagining the negative energy of this emotion as something which you are destroying.
Now when you got shot of some negative emotions directed to yourself, you can start forgiving yourself.
- I… (YOUR NAME) FORGIVE MYSELF ….
- I… (YOUR NAME) FORGIVE MYSELF THAT …
You can also forgive yourself missed opportunities or lack of assertiveness, indecisiveness, hurting others. It may concern this and your past incarnations.
3. Forgive Your Wrongdoers
This stage is similar to the previous one. So first you need to get rid of negative emotions and pain connected with the wounds you have been inflicted. Again, you can imagine them as a black cloud and by shouting or kicking, throwing (with the white or purple light) – destroying them. So use the examples of statements above to eliminate negativity connected with your wrongdoers. Getting shot of pain may be the hardest. But…
You can forgive someone despite feeling pain. and don’t be afraid to say it. For example you can say:
- … (NAME OF THE WRONGDOER) I FORGIVE YOU…. DESPITE FEELING ….
4. Acknowledge the Truth
After letting go of negativity, forgiving yourself and your wrongdoers, noticing the bright side of your life, you are ready to accept your life. Sometimes you still might feel discomfort, resent or other negative emotions. You do not need to like something or someone for every sake. Your peace of mind while thinking of them is more important.
5. Be Grateful
Acceptance is not possible without gratitude. When you start seeing your blessings instead of limits it will be easier to acknowledge your life. You can also try to find the benefits in your limits.
The best way to practise gratitude is to start writing a journal. Mine is over a year old. You do not need to write boring paragraphs – cartoons and artwork are also good. Then you are not only grateful but express yourself and show your talents.
I have written a post where you can find many examples of what to be grateful for. Let me remind some examples:
- Your life
- Your home
- Your helpers
- The beauty outside (if you are living in the countryside or near the sea, forest, in the mountains)
- Your parents (even if they are quirky sometimes)
- Your work
- Your money
- Your car
- Your core friends
- Your health
You will notice that after forgiving yourself and other people you WILL BE ABLE to think about yourself and the wrongdoers in a peaceful way, even if the negative thoughts can still emerge.
6. Understand Your Life Purpose
If you believe in God (whichever one/ones) you can notice that everything has a purpose in your life and everything teaches you something. You learn how to live in a society or a relationship, how to support yourself (not only financially.) And most of these skills are not taught at school, you often learn them by trial and error, sometimes following other people’s advice.
7. Live In the Present
Acceptance is about living in the present instead of ruminating the past or worrying about the future. Notice what is positive about your house, work, boss, friends, parents, children NOW. And focus on it. If your boss, co-workers or family are toxic or though, try to talk to them or cut off. Always send their energy to the Light.
In a Nutshell
Today I have presented you how to accept anything in your life. Just follow these seven steps in the order they are described. These steps include letting negativity go, self-forgiveness, forgiving others, gratitude, understanding your life purpose and living in the present.