A week ago I presented the proven method of self-forgiveness on my blog. However, you still might doubt what in particular needs to be forgiven. Today I will describe ten must-to-forgive things in your life, some often overlooked and neglected.
10 Things To Forgive Yourself
Why 10 and not 100 or 1000? Firstly, I would not like to overload you with work which may be hard. Secondly, fewer examples will give you the inspiration to dig deeper.
1. Forgive Wrong Decisions
How many times has it happened that after you had made a decision you were beating up yourself? Unfortunately, in most cases, we are not able to predict everything, because everything can change unexpectedly within a second. At the point of time, you had made the best decision according to your knowledge and good judgement. Another reason to forgive yourself the decisions made is that you are never able to predict the real consequences in the long run. Let’s look outside and see what Mother Earth is doing with the weather.
2. Forgive Things Undone To Others
Sometimes you do not keep your promise and fail doing things for other people. It may be a big deal. However, from time to time you cannot help your acts. I do not support laziness and negligence. I assume that you made your biggest effort but eventually failed to meet the promise.
3. Forgive Wrongs Done By Your Words
This is one of the hardest categories because words said only once cause everlasting damage if they hurt. The other person may forgive you, but the pain and scars will remain. Yet it does not mean that you should punish yourself for ages. It is enough that you will bear the consequences or have born them already, in this life and in the future ones, so there is no point dwelling on this act anymore. Just learn not to repeat it in the future.
4. Forgive Wrongs Done By Your Deeds
It was obvious since this world has been created. We are lucky enough that at least in Europe, the “eye-for-eye” rule is not applied anymore. Therefore, you also have the right to forgive yourself. You will face the consequences and karma, but apart from that, there is no point dwelling for what you have done.
5. Close Your Past
Suppose that you have quitted drinking. Yet looking back, you still can see the damage done to your family and friends at the times of heavy drinking. Now you have to face with remorse and guilt. But you know what? No one is perfect. This chapter is closed now so there is no point dwelling for too long what you used to do then, especially if you quit drinking.
6. Let Go of Your Failed Relationships
Perfectionism may flood everything: your work, relationships, children… However, we HAVE THE RIGHT to make mistakes. Learning is a natural way of growing. Think of the time you were learning walking. How many times have you fallen before mastering this skill? The same rule applies to relationships, you are learning from each ot them.
7. Forgive Yourself Judging People Unfairly
If you said something or someone saw your disapproving body language and then your judgement was unfair… you have something to forgive yourself. You do not know the whole picture only a top of the iceberg. So apologise, face the consequences forgive yourself and stop judging.
8. Disarm Your Self-Criticism And Being Too Critical To Others
Constructive criticism is necessary to see the areas of life which need improvement. Unfortunately, more often criticism is destructive. Moreover, you have a very strict self-critic in your head which can often paralyse your life or can criticise others destructively. And that is the thing you need to forgive yourself when your criticism was unreasonable and hurt someone.
9. Forgive Your Lost Hopes and Dreams
You have opportunities all the time in our life. Yet sometimes the earthy life brings you down, killing the hopes and dreams you may have. This leads to resignation from something great because of fear, lack of money, helplessness. It is true that some opportunities are missed forever and will not come back, but in the long run, you might see the benefits of not taking these opportunities.
10. Forgive Your Lack of Self-Respect
This is very serious “crime” in personal and spiritual development on the way to ultimate happiness. Lack of self-respect is usually manifested by lack of assertiveness, negligence and some other factors. It happens when you have resigned from reprimand someone who was doing you wrong or you had no courage to stand up for yourself. You could also neglect your body and soul, by addictions and low vibrations.
In a Nutshell
Today I have described you ten crucial things you need to forgive yourself. Most common of them include your lost hopes and dreams, your past relationships, your bad judgement of other people and all wrongs done to then, your past and wrong decisions.