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How To Stop Daily Grumbling

We will start a new calendar year shortly. Many people complain about how bad the current one was, having daily grumbling in their blood. Bad weather, traffic jams, too short days, too long queues, and their nasty boss… However, do you know what impact grumbling has on your brain?

What Is Grumbling

The word “grumble” means that you complain clearly but quietly, in a low mutter. Scientists show undoubtedly that daily grumbling can influence your brain, which is an amazing and resistant tool at the same time. But if you stop spreading negativity, the destructive process can be reverted.

Neuroplasticity Of Your Brain

Within the last twenty years, science has proved that the brain was able to redesign itself and that we were the engineers who did it. The discovery is based on millions of some medical examinations (e.g. MRI scans).

What Is Neuroplasticity

It is a general term describing a permanent change in the brain throughout the whole life of a human being. You are able to:

  • increase your intelligence,
  • learn new skills changing your life,
  • reverse some brain damages,
  • increase emotional intelligence,
  • unlearn harmful beliefs, habits and behaviours.

On the contrary, you can also destroy your brain, designing it for worse performance and increase the probability of having an illness.

The Brain And Grumbling – What Scientists Say

An average person grumbles from 15 to 30 times a day and what is worse, this state of mind remains for 30 minutes or more, damaging the brain.

Scientists from Stratford University have used the high-resolution MRI scans and found connections between stressful life experiences, the long-term exposition to stress hormones and the hippocamp shrinking (which is responsible for memorising, learning and emotions).

Dr Michael Merznich, who is considered as the most known scientist in the world, has paid attention, among many of his discoveries, on one thing: He noticed that our experiences, behaviour, thinking, habits, thinking patterns and the ways we react are bound inseparably with the changes taking place in your brain.

Thought Forms From Mental Perspective

You already know what thought forms are. On a mental level, they are created by constant repetition of a given thought or kinds of thought, grumbling in this case. Repetitive thoughts, in your head of, said aloud, become your beliefs which will inevitably change your behaviour. You actually start seeking anything you can grumble about.

Your brain creates prejudices to e.g. bad weather, traffic jams and starts focusing on all what is wrong around you, not on what is good. Eventually, negative thought patterns start to jam positivity so that you will not be able to notice them in your life.

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How To Protect Your Mind

It is hard to think only positive thoughts. However, you need to do your best to stop grumbling and negative thinking, e.g. putting them to the bin. Below there are some other ways which can help you.

Meditation

People who meditate daily show more positive emotions than those who do not practise meditation. The meditating individuals can define their life goals clearly, have bigger social support and fewer symptoms of illnesses. Just 15-20 minutes of daily meditation can make wonders.

While meditating, you can work out your worries and negativity., Just cleanse yourself under a waterfall, in the sea or river. Then, to help your brain with regeneration lay down on the grass to charge with the energy of Mother Earth. Soak with the rain falling from the sky or expose to the wind blowing on the beach. Look at the sky. Open up and absorb the sunlight, the rays of life.

Thoughts Beliefs And Deeds Control

It is not the first time I will repeat on this website: put your negativity to the bin. It concerns all your negative thoughts, beliefs, emotions and deeds. Grumbling is a kind of negative speaking, the lack of responsibility for your life, in all its dimensions. Remember that what you focus on, grows and what you sow, you will reap. Therefore, do your best to limit grumbling and even better – eliminate it from your life.

Take Responsibility

I have also written a couple of articles about taking responsibility for your life. Every time when you start grumbling or complaining, say,

I AM RESPONSIBLE. IT IS UP TO ME HOW I REACT.

Always remember: you cannot change the force major (although sometimes you CAN protect a given area from a cataclysm, meditating asking God for help). But you are ALWAYS responsible for your reactions – thoughts, words and deeds. It is up to you to be happy, healthy and full of energy or sad, ill and drained. The choice is yours.

Learn To Adapt

Nothing is constant.. except change. This is one of the Universal Laws. Therefore, you need to adapt to changes. It might be coming whether it is tomorrow, next month or next year.

Some life changes may be painful, especially the loss of your loved person, a job and sometimes house or another material thing. Allow a period of grieving. To limit grumbling, set a daily time to be sad and then decrease it. Let the pain go during meditating and mindfulness. After you have released all the pain, accept the situation, knowing that some people are in a much worse situation.

Be Assertive

Sometimes you complain about people, about what they have and you don’t. The truth is that it is up to you to take care of the boundaries with other people, to win the race for the right job or house. It is up to you how your partner, children. family or friends will treat you. Assertiveness is the way to tell others what your needs are and how these can be met.

Improve your posture. Stand up straight, with your head held high, have a firm handshake and always look individuals into their eyes. Speak clearly as you want people to understand your point. Avoid rambling and unproductive pauses. Be firm, but kind, expressing what you want clearly.

Be Less Judgemental

This also includes yourself. We all make mistakes, but to err is human. Being critical leads to grumbling. Eliminate some words from your vocabulary:

SHOULD, SHOULDN’T, WOULD, WOULDN’T, STUPID, IDIOT, JERK

List your strength to build your confidence and, on a better day, your weaknesses and how to downplay them. Compliment yourself and others. Learn how to accept compliments, never deny them.

There is another useful rule to follow: own your mistakes, but not the mistakes of others. Self-responsibility and self-respect are your pillars of confidence and healthy brain. Think highly of yourself and your decision-making process. Eject chronic grumblers. Here is one thing to remember:

NEXT TIME WHEN YOU ARE STRESSED TAKE A STEP BACK AND LAUGH.

REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE WHY YOU ARE HERE AND THAT YOU HAVE NEVER GIVEN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD THAT YOU CANNOT HANDLE.

BE STRONG, BE FLEXIBLE, LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. JUST KEEP MOVING FORWARD, WORKING ON YOUR SOUL PLAN.

Credits to LifeHack.org .

In a Nutshell

Today you have learnt about the Harmful influence of grumbling on your life. I have shown you how it affects your brain and the ways to stop it. Some of them include: putting your thoughts to the bin, meditating, living a non-judgemental life, assertiveness, adaptation to changes and taking responsibility for your thoughts, deeds and words.

Vicky

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