We all know that changing negative beliefs is a must. However, I agree that sometimes it is very hard. Learn when it happens and what to do to transform these beliefs.
Can You Change Your Negative Beliefs? Test Yourself
Before you learn the reasons for reluctance in changing your beliefs, test yourself. At glance, what could be the reasons for not eliminating your negative beliefs?
1. Your Beliefs Are Impossible to Meet
So you believe that you cannot be healthy because of a chronic illness – the physical or mental one. You cannot change your job, partner and so on… Stop! Below you will learn that you CAN be healthy, happy, loved and wealthy.
I will discuss this topic thoroughly later, giving you some examples of payoffs which impede the elimination of negative beliefs and the thoughts generated by them. You need to have no mercy for your payoffs in order to create a happy, wonderful life.
How To Change Negative Beliefs And Their Payoffs
There are some proven methods of transforming your negative beliefs. Some of them will be described in my next posts on this website. These methods include:
- mind reprogramming,
- costs and benefits analysis,
- finding the evidence and questioning it,
- discussion with the belief.
1. List your Negative Beliefs
Use the beginnings below to have some idea what I mean here. Apart from the example statements, anything negative you believe in falls into this category. Prepare a notebook or diary where you will analyse your beliefs later. Pick up 5 to 10 ones.
- I can’t …
- I am not good at ….
- People/Money/Life/ Relationships are… (add a negative descriptive word.)
2. Assess Your Willingness To Change Your Beliefs
Done? Great. Then assess on the scale from 1 (not at all) to 10 (extremely yes) that you are reluctant to change these beliefs. In most cases, the beliefs you have listed as first will be the most difficult to change. But as you will read below, all beliefs can be transformed.
3. Dig Deeper
Now let’s find the reasons why it is hard to change your beliefs. Some of them will be facts, but most come from your subconscious mind, which also stores the memory about your past lives. let’s look at some examples:
- I cannot drive because I have epilepsy.
- I cannot approach this woman because I was rejected too many times because I do not believe in my worthiness.
- I am unworthy because my mum told me so when I did something wrong
- I cannot make a mistake because I will feel humiliated.
4. Question the Reasons
Now when you know your deeper reasons of negative beliefs, define if these reasons are actually true. All lies in your faith, the power of thoughts and action taken. Let’s look at the reasons for keeping the beliefs listed above and question them:
In the case of epilepsy – today it can be treated not only by tablets but e.g CBD oil, ketogenic diet, tarantula venom extract. Plus, you can also work on this illness using phantom operations and meditating. Your thoughts are able to transform your brain.
Rejection. Is it the end of the world? For whom, you or your ego? Remember that you are the boss, a beautiful wonder, not your ego, the part of your mind. There will be no disaster if your ego is bruised, sometimes the so-called humiliation shows you the brutal truth you do not want to face.
Making mistakes. if someone told you that it is a wrong thing, ask them if they are perfect, especially in the field they are criticising. I can assure you, most of them also make mistakes. No one criticised you for your falls while you were learning to walk. Each skill requires making mistakes so that you know what to amend.
5. Find the Payoffs Of Your Beliefs
It may still be hard to crack the reasons for your negative beliefs. Why? Because they give you a payoff, and you stuck to them. Notice that the same payoff may apply to a multitude of negative beliefs, e.g. discomfort/stress/ pain, ego-bruising, death, poverty, loneliness. Now, when you have written the reasons for your beliefs, answer the questions:
What advantage do I take from this belief?
Let’s look at the examples analysed in this article. Here are some example payoffs, not all for each belief:
- people care for me more
- I do not have to take responsibility for my life, the illness is a great alibi.
Reluctance to approach a woman:
- I will not be hurt emotionally,
- my ego will not be bruised,
- I can avoid rejection.
Reluctance to try new things
- the comfort zone is safer than taking the risk,
- I do not have to take action,
- I can avoid stress.
6. Challenge the Payoffs
Once you have identified your payoffs, the time has come to challenge them. You will learn how to do it in one of my next posts.
7. Reprogram Your Mind
To do so, start from regular putting negative thoughts to the bin. You can also send commands to your mind, for example:
MY DEAR MIND, STOP IT. IT DOES NOT SERVE US. I AM A BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL BEING, LIVING IN THE LIGHT AND ABLE TO BE HAPPY, HEALTHY, LOVED AND WEALTHY.
Be persistent and disciplined to do so whenever a thought connected with your negative beliefs emerges.
In a Nutshell
Today you have learned if it’s hard to change negative beliefs. Their payoffs are the biggest obstacle to transformation. However, it is possible after finding the reasons for your beliefs and eliminating payoffs. Good luck with eliminating negative beliefs.